Conflict resolution discussion

1. Describe your observation (instead of making a judgment).
‘When I returned from a prolonged meeting in the morning, you were posting messages in as part of your contributions in a rough, tumble but lively debate in the discussion forum’
2. Identify your feeling (which is different from sharing your thoughts).
‘I feel offended’
3. Explain the reason for your feeling in terms of your needs (there are always very specific needs behind feelings).
‘I feel offended because I would like that religious beliefs are respected. However, I am feeling that the post made has not only deeply offended my religious beliefs but also those of other participants.’
4. State your request.
‘Are you willing to make the discussion forum’s debate lively, smooth without back and forth? Moreover, are you willing to share your thoughts that do not offend anyone’s religious beliefs?'

1. Describe your observation (instead of making a judgement).
'When I returned from a meeting that lasted the better part of the morning, you were
busy posting religious beliefs messages to the discussion forum.’
2. Identify your feeling (which is different from sharing your thoughts).
'We feel offended.'
3. Explain the reason for your feeling in terms of your needs (there are always very
specific needs behind feelings).
‘We feel offended because religious beliefs that upholds our faith as Christians and
need to be respected.’
4. State your request.
‘Are you willing to engage in lively debate to the discussion forum without criticisms
on the religious beliefs?’

Dear Team,
Thank you for your contributions in this discussion on Non-violent communication. We noted that:

1. The theory of non-violent communication provides us with a number of techniques to help you stay in control of difficult situations.
2. Our emotions do tend to take over and cause us to get upset, we are required to express our emotions correctly to avoid conflict situations
3. We need to endeavour to be open, assertive, respectful and not judgemental in our communication. (The Giraffe)
4. We should avoid accusing, judging, manipulating and reproaching other in our communication (The Jackal)

The technique you can use to release the inner giraffe in you in persuasive communication:
1. Observation: stick to the facts, do not judge,
e.g. I can see that...., what I noticed that...., what I hear is that you...
2. Emotion: Put down what you feel about what has been observed (There are four main emotions; joy, fear, anger and sadness)
e.g. I am highly disappointed by..., I am concerned about...., I am excited about....., I do not approve of...
3. Need: Express what you find important, what you need, what values you find important, and what you would appreciate to see respected.
e.g. I have always found it important to...., I would like to...., what counts for me is that...
4. Request: Point out unambiguously what you expect from the other person, include suggestions to the person
e.g. That is why I want to ask you to......, I insist on you doing the following...., I want you to immedietly...

Regards,
Barbara

1. Describe your observation (instead of making a judgement).

1. Describe your observation (instead of making a judgement).- Today i noticed that you made a comment that i found unsettling based on the fact that you discussed religion in a negative manner, which as you know is a sensitive topic
2. Identify your feeling (which is different from sharing your thoughts).-i felt bad about that post as it does not resonate with my faith which you shed in negative light
3.Explain the reason for your feeling in terms of your needs (there are always very specific needs behind feelings).- your description of my religion is totally wrong as you depicted it so negatively and honestly i did not like that.
State your request-i would appreciate if you would pull down the post and if you do not mind, i would be more than willing to educate you on my religion so that you spread love and not hatred. thank you

Dear .............(offending participants name),

I observed that you posted a message in the discussion forum that offended many of my deeply held religious beliefs. I also think that the message is likely to cause deep offense to many other participants.

When I read your message, I felt hurt and angry. I value respect for all people's beliefs, and I felt that your message was disrespectful. I also felt concerned about the impact that your message might have on other participants.

I need all participants in this discussion forum to feel safe and respected. I need to be able to express my beliefs without fear of being ridiculed or belittled. I also need to be able to interact with other participants without having to worry about them being offended by my beliefs.

I request that you remove your offensive message and apologize to the participants who you may have offended. I also request that you be more mindful of your words in the future.

Thank you for your consideration
Dr.Omoga

1. Describe your observation: I have observed that your writing has not considered the doctrines of other religions and may be viewed as judgmental by the many other participants that do not share the same line of though as yourself
2. Identify the feeling: I feel offended by your post and view it as disrespeful to other religions
3. Reason for the feeling: This is because your post was not objective but rather subjective, and did not consider at minimum the effect such statements could have on the other participants
4. State your request: I request that you edit or review your post at the earliest time possible to ensure that it is not judgmental, castigative or does not impact negatively on other people's religious beliefs

Describe your observation (instead of making a judgement). I have noted with a lot of concern that you have posted rather an unfriendly post on the discussion forum that may not go down well with most of the participants
Identify your feeling (which is different from sharing your thoughts). It is a rather disappointing act which evokes resentment
Explain the reason for your feeling in terms of your needs (there are always very specific needs behind feelings). Your post is discouraging to most of your colleagues. I equally feel a bit offended
State your request. Therefore, I kindly request that you pull don the post immediately to prevent further negative impact

1. Describe my observations (instead of making a judgement) " After a meeting lasting most of the morning, you return to the discussion forum and noticed in the rough and tumble of a lively debate, one participant has posted a message....
2. Identify your feeling (which is different from sharing your thoughts).. feel offended
3. Explain the reason for your feeling in terms of your needs (there are always very specific needs behind feelings) What counts for me is that the religious beliefs have to be respected
4. State your request: Kindly share the religious thoughts that do not cause deep offence to participants